So she has the usual incomplete love story where they were together for sometime and it was beautiful and then one day suddenly he e-mails her ( OMG ! ) saying "Thank You" for all that they had and hopes that she will find someone better to spend the rest of her life with! ( WTF??? ) They still keep talking like nothing had happened for you know how long .... 1 day ... 24 hours and just like that within 48 hours he detached himself from her and all that they had for so long. Fine, typical story and trust me that's not the problem. So not all love stories necessarily work out right? okay fine so this didn't? He moved on, is fine now, flirts with other girls and hardly treats her like she exists. Okay, he broke up with her so its obvious. Is that the problem? No! Its the Girl! She just can't get over it! I mean i know its going to be hard and this is her first love and yeah all that lovey-dovey stuff happened but c'mon now the relationship was less than a whole semester, or a little more than that but the point is given that she wasn't even 18 when this happened she hardly saw any of it! I mean its not the end of the world!
Okay so don't get me wrong but its been like what more than 1 year now and its about time she got over it! He obviously got over it and is actually doing hwat he is supposed to be doing at this point of time, study, hang out with friends, watch movies, socialize everything that a normal person would do. But all she can do is sulk about it and whine that "i didn't see him today!" or "Oh lets go look for him c'mon!" or "Omg i hate you for making me think about him!" or at the least mention of something bad about him "HEYYYYYY! Don't say that about him. He is not bad! He is so cute! You have no right to say that! " :O Hello focus here we probably didn't say anything but something like " Omg he is so freaky , he always wears that same shirt! " And then there are times when she does see him. At first she's looking all around for him and then when she sees that he is just ahead she starts fidgeting and makes a big commotion which makes him aware of her approach and then just as she hopes for a smile and a "Hi" from him, she sees the otehr person beside him who happens to be any random girl he is talking to, and guess what happens ... She starts fuming! She starts and doesn't end until she goes to bed! " He this.. He that " " She this ... She that " And most of the this and that is not polite enough to be on here!
So In a sentence her problem is that she cannot accept the fact that although they had "good times" a long time ago, he is just not that into her now!. Where's my problem in it? I can see my friend ruining herself in this process! She doesn't give her best in anything that she does because she spends a huge percentage of her time day-dreaming about him! She gets upset over silly things like i got to see him and she didn't or he passed by and pretended like she was just another piece of furniture! It hurts me to think of how much she can put with this and how much longer can i stand this?
I tried. I told her he wasn't worth being with her, she got mad at me! I told her there are a thousand other guys who are better than him and she deserves to be with one of them, she stopped talking to me! I told her that although you guys had something special it was real while it lasted, now its nothing more than last week's stale bread. You have to get over past and live in the present! She said it was the most real thing possible and that there was nothing more to love that what she had seen! I mean is that even possible? I told her of the couple who have been married 51 years now and still say that there's so much more to love that they haven't seen! I told her that at the present there were too many other things that were real. She is a girl! Gone are the days when a girl's only identity was the man she was with! No that's not the same anymore! Girls now are independent and free! They don' habe to deal with stuff like this anymore not this young anyways! You know what she said " No a girl still needs a man in her life without which life is incomplete " ??? so i said " You have your father and brother .... " There is no arguing with her!
I need some one to tell this to her, I need to make her realize her worth! I just don't know what to do with her!
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